My mother-in-law had my sister-in-law breastfeed my baby!!
I forgot my pumped breastmilk but I thought no big deal I was only going to be gone two hours and I fed him before I left. Well, when I got back my mother-in-law told me she had my 20 year old sister-in-law nurse my baby. I am so upset and I'm being made to feel like the one at fault because I forgot my milk. My baby was not hungry he was just tired. Plus I left baby food. How can she think this was okay?
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I can understand your shock. I was too when I found out my sister-inlaw (my husband's brothers wife) did the same thing with my baby. My husband and I went out for our anniversy for our first date since we had our baby and my husband's family came over to watch our baby. They had plenty of my milk but supposedly my baby wouldn't take it the bottle. So my SIL desided to try her breast thinking it wouldn't work but my baby was crying and they wanted to help her. My baby had not problem with her breast. Like I said I was shocked and werided out at first but I took this persepective and I suggest the same to you, they care about me and my baby and they meant no harm, they did not want to make me mad, they were trying to do what was best in the situation they were in. I wouldn't have it out with them just let them know that it made you uncomfortable and you would rather them not ever do that again. Anger never solves problems, but good communication can be helpful.

Throughout human history, mothers have often allowed other women to breastfeed their babies. In fact, well-to-do women in the 17th and 18th century often paid “wet-nurses” to breastfeed their infants. (During that era, a woman could earn more money as a wet nurse than her husband could as a laborer.)
More recently, breastfeeding mothers have stepped up to the plate to save babies during natural disasters. In 2008, Chinese police officer Jiang Xiaojuan breastfed several infants, in addition to her own 6-month-old, after an earthquake left 80,000 dead or missing. Was it “nasty” for Jiang to share her breastmilk with those babies? The human race may not have survived if not for women willing to nurse orphaned children.
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Beyond the Bank
In addition to exchanging expressed breast milk, some moms skip the bottle and cross-nurse, splitting breastfeeding duties with another woman and her baby. Cross-nursers say they enjoy the flexibility as well as the four-way bonding that occurs between the moms and their children. And some moms go as far as hiring a wet nurse -- a woman paid to breastfeed another child -- when they can't perform the task themselves. Informal sharing is naturally more controversial, but a significant number of moms are open to the idea. According to a nationally representative Babytalk survey on momconnection.com, 40 percent had either a positive response ("beautiful!") or a neutral reaction ("each to her own") when asked how they felt about milk sharing.

The Other Side of the Nursing Bra
Moms who engage in cross-nursing relish the bonding -- yet this intimacy is why other moms find it a turnoff. In our survey, 45 percent of women said the practice was "disgusting" or "weird," and it bothered them most because "nursing isn't just about nutrition." Thirty six percent said it was a personal experience they wouldn't want to share. "My first reaction is eww! And I'm a breastfeeding advocate," says Erin Acosta of Orange, California. "Barring illness, I can't see myself being okay with it."
While milk sharing is likely to remain controversial, the moms who do it feel doubly rewarded. In fact, a recent study in the Journal of Human Lactation found that moms donate milk because their cups runneth over and they want to help other mothers. Says Stiebel, who would share milk again if the need arose, "Moms are moms to everyone's children."
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Enrolled Copy H.B. 196
1 BREASTFEEDING PROTECTION ACT
2 2018 GENERAL SESSION
3 STATE OF UTAH
4 Chief Sponsor: Justin L. Fawson
5 Senate Sponsor: Deidre M. Henderson
6 Cosponsor:
7 Travis M. Seegmiller

Federal Health Reform and Nursing Mothers
President Obama signed the Affordable Care Act (ACA) on March 30, 2010. (See the combined full text of Public Laws 111-148 and 111-152 here.) Among many provisions, Section 4207 of the law amends the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA) of 1938 (29 U.S. Code 207) to require an employer to provide reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for one year after the child's birth each time such employee has need to express milk. The employer is not required to compensate an employee receiving reasonable break time for any work time spent for such purpose. The employer must also provide a place, other than a bathroom, for the employee to express breast milk. If these requirements impose undue hardship, an employer that employs fewer than 50 employees is not subject to these requirements. The federal requirements shall not preempt a state law that provides greater protections to employees.

La. Rev. Stat. Ann. § 51.2247.1 (2001) states that a mother may breastfeed her baby in any place of public accommodation, resort, or amusement, and clarifies that breastfeeding is not a violation of law, including obscenity laws. (2001 HB 377)
Delaware Del. Code Ann. tit. 31 § 310 (1997) entitles a mother to breastfeed her child in any location of a place of public accommodation wherein the mother is otherwise permitted. (Vol. 71 Del. Laws, Chap. 10; 1997 HB 31)

Fla. Stat. § 383.015 (1993) allows a mother to breastfeed in any public or private location. (HB 231)
Fla. Stat. § 383.016 (1994) authorizes a facility lawfully providing maternity services or newborn infant care to use the designation "baby-friendly" on its promotional materials. The facility must be in compliance with at least eighty percent of the requirements developed by the Department of Health in accordance with UNICEF and World Health Organization baby-friendly hospital initiatives. (SB 1668)
Fla. Stat. § 800.02 et seq. and § 827.071 exclude breastfeeding from various sexual offenses, such as lewdness, indecent exposure and sexual conduct.
Fla. Stat. § 847.0135 (5) (d) (2008) excludes a mother breastfeeding her baby from the offense of lewd or lascivious exhibition using a computer. (2008 Fla. Laws, Chap. 172, SB 1442)
La. Rev. Stat. Ann. § 51.2247.1 (2001) states that a mother may breastfeed her baby in any place of public accommodation, resort, or amusement, and clarifies that breastfeeding is not a violation of law, including obscenity laws. (2001 HB 377)

Mich. Comp. Laws § 117.4i (2018) states that public nudity does not include woman’s breastfeeding of a baby whether or not the nipple or areola is exposed during or incidental to the feeding. (HB 5313)
Mich. Comp. Laws § 41.181, § 67.1aa and § 117.4i et seq. (1994) state that public nudity laws do not apply to a woman breastfeeding a child.

N.Y. Penal Law § 245.01 et seq. excludes breastfeeding of infants from exposure offenses.

Pennsylvania Pa. Cons. Stat. tit. 35 § 636.1 et seq. (2007) allows mothers to breastfeed in public without penalty. Breastfeeding may not be considered a nuisance, obscenity or indecent exposure under this law. (SB 34)

Puerto Rico 24 L.P.R.A. § 3518 states that a mother breastfeeding her child in any place, whether public or private, where she is otherwise authorized to be, shall not be deemed as indecent exposure, obscene act or other punishable action.

944.20  Lewd and lascivious behavior.
(1)  Whoever does any of the following is guilty of a Class A misdemeanor:
(a) Commits an indecent act of sexual gratification with another with knowledge that they are in the presence of others; or
(b) Publicly and indecently exposes genitals or pubic area.
(2) Subsection (1) does not apply to a mother's breast-feeding of her child.
History: 1977 c. 173; 1983 a. 17; 1989 a. 31; 1995 a. 165.
“Publicly" is susceptible to a construction that will avoid the question of constitutional overbreadth, by limiting the application of the statute to constitutionally permissible goals of protecting children from exposure to obscenity and preventing assaults on the sensibilities of unwilling adults in public. Reichenberger v. Warren, 319 F. Supp. 1237 (1970).

Wyo. Stat. § 6-4-201 (2007) exempts breastfeeding mothers from public indecency laws and gives breastfeeding women the right to nurse anyplace that they otherwise have a right to be. (HB 105)

Breast feeding in Public

Q: Does federal or state law protect a woman’s ability to breastfeeding in public?

A: Yes. Wisconsin law allows a mother to breastfeed her child in any public or private location where the mother and child are otherwise allowed.36 Further, no person may prohibit a mother from breastfeeding her child, direct her to move to a different location to breastfeed her child, direct her to cover her child or breast while breast-feeding, or otherwise restrict a mother from breastfeeding.37 This means women are allowed to breastfeed in restaurants, stores, parks, malls, and other public locations. Breastfeeding in public is not a violation of Wisconsin’s sexual gratification, indecent exposure, or obscenity laws.38

Q: Are there local ordinances that protect a woman’s ability to breastfeed in public?

A: Madison and Dane County both have local ordinances that permit a woman to breastfeed in public, and Madison’s breastfeeding ordinance provides additional protections.39 Madison’s ordinance protects the “expression” of breast milk in any public or private location where a woman (mother or surrogate) is otherwise permitted.40 Expressing breast milk includes pumping as well as breastfeeding. The one exception to a woman’s ability to express breast milk under Madison’s ordinance is that the owner of a private residence may prohibit a woman from breastfeeding or pumping within that private residence.41

. The campaign to provide formula to children began as part of a social movement to
liberate women from household responsibilities and to give them the opportunity to maintain
their place within the workforce, even after the birth of a child. Since its inception, however,
the movement away from breastfeeding has also allowed a redefinition of the use of the breast
from an object for feeding a baby to an object of sexual stimulation. Some authors argue that
this sexual objectification of the breast has inhibited women from breastfeeding. Whatever the
case, current attitudes toward the breast and its exposure in the public arena have definitely
colored the issues surrounding breastfeeding’ especially within an employment context. As a
result, the social norms regarding breastfeeding have been severely altered since the
introduction of formula. See Corey Silberstein Shdaimah, Why Breastfeeding is (Also) a Legal Issue,
10 HASTINGS WOMEN’S L.J. 409, 412-13 (1999).
8. See Heidi Littman et al., The Decision to Breastfeed: The Importance of Fathers’ Approval, 33
CLINICAL PEDIATRICS 214, 214 (Apr. 1994).
9. See id.
10. See U.S. BUREAU OF THE CENSUS, STATISTICAL ABSTRACT OF THE UNITED STATES: 1998
(118th ed. 1998).
11. See id.

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